Anonymous asked: Hi... So at this moment I am feeling suicidal..... Can someone help..... I can't take it anymore...
Please take a moment to hear me out. We probably don’t know each other and you probably will ask me who the hell am I to tell you what to do and what not to do. This is true, I am a nobody however I am a nobody who cares very much for you. I care for everyone, but right now all that’s on my mind is how much I wish to be there to talk to you face to face. You are my only concern right now, you are my only worry. Now perhaps I can’t give you the best advice because I’m not a therapist however I can definitely try to talk to you about this because I too have been in this situation. I too have been right where you are, i knew what it was like to feel like you aren’t worth it and that live isn’t worth living, I didn’t care who I would leave behind, I was way past the that point all I wanted was to leave this world, I had a dark sad life with many misfortunes but I’m here, happier then ever because it all passed. You too can do this, how? Well everything passes. That’s not very helpful I know, but tell you what, you probably messaged me because you wanted someone to talk to or listen for once or probably because you want a reason not to harm yourself. That’s great, because it probably means somehow you believe there is still a chance. And there is! Think about it for a moment, honey. Have you always felt depressed, worthless, apathetic? What changed? Why do you think things can’t change again? Life is constantly changing, life is constantly throwing new things and new opportunities. Being suicidal doesn’t make you weak, pathetic, stupid or crazy it means you have a lot of agony and can’t seem to find anymore effective ways to cope. Feeling depressed and trapped can make you feel like you have no other option when you really do have other choices. Here’s the thing just because you can’t find your options doesn’t mean they aren’t there or don’t exist. It simply means you are depressed and perhaps can’t see it for yourself! Sometimes we have so much pain we think it’ll last forever , we don’t believe that most things are temporary or have a solution. Right now you need help, not because you lost control of your life but because you need to have someone help you get the proper tools to kill all the negativity you’ve ever had in your life. As I’ve mentioned before in other posts and asks, people tend to look down on themselves, beat themselves up not because THEY actually feel that way about themselves but because they’ve had negative people on their life that constantly picked at them. Eventually the person who called you ugly, fat, worthless, failure, etc becomes your own voice. You start to believe all the abusive words that everyone has ever told you and you play it over and over again like a recorder. thing is we need to identify your voice and your say in your life! You need to learn to ignore those nasty vile things that were said to you and start writing your own thoughts and your own story. What do you think of you? Yeah! You have a choice to ignore those voices and make your own opinions! Because you are wonderful, no matter what anyone had ever said to you, you are worth more then a million diamonds. You deserve to have a happy life and you deserve to be loved by yourself. No amount of mistakes can define who you are. Only you can define who you are. Make sure you define yourself in a positive way because in reality there isn’t anyone who can kick you more down then yourself.
Im perhaps going off topic but I guess what I’m trying to say is that you have so much to look forward to! Have you ever seen India? Paris? London? Alaska? Ride the highest roller coaster? Donated blood? Bungee jumped? Watched an outdoor film in a car? Kissed on new years midnight? Made love in a field of flowers? Have you already accomplished your wildest desire? Finished all your goals? If not you aren’t ready to leave this world, think about it, babe. You may not see the beauty around you but honestly there’s so much life can
Offer you, don’t miss out! You’ll leave so many people behind even though you probably think nobody cares. You’ll never get a dream wedding or have any cute kids and hitch hike around the world :( what ever that’s happening right now, I promise you that in a couple months, years you will look back and say wow I made it! And it wasn’t as bad as I saw it that one day! Please don’t give up, I want to be your friend, I care about you, I love you. I know you can shine, shine brighter then the stars, if you leave this world the world won’t know what they are missing. They’ll never know what a great person you are, what you could have done and what you can be. Use all that energy you feel and put it into something that makes you feel good, perhaps try some community service, learn a new skill and do something you’ve always wanted todo, treat yourself because you deserve it!
WAYS TO COPE WITH SUICIDAL FEELINGS:
Remember that while it may feel as if the depression will never end, depression is never a permanent condition. You WILL feel better again. In the meantime, here are some things you can do to cope with your suicidal thoughts and feelings:
-Talk with someone every day, preferably face to face. Though you feel like withdrawing, ask trusted friends and acquaintances to spend time with you.
-Spend time with people who aren’t depressed. This can lift you up and make you feel better.
-If you are thinking of taking an overdose, give your medicines to someone who can give them to you one day at a time.
-Remove any dangerous objects or weapons from your home.
-Avoid alcohol and other drugs. They will only make you feel worse.
-Wait until you are feeling better before doing things you find difficult or unpleasant.
-Make a written schedule for yourself every day and stick to it, no matter what.
-Don’t skip meals, and get at least eight hours of sleep each night.
-Get out in the sun or into nature for at least 30-minutes a day.
Make time for things that bring you joy.
"If your anguish is psychological and/or psychosomatic (not organic), steps like these can bring you new options, hope, and purpose:
Commit to studying this free online Lesson. It will teach you about your talented personality subselves and how to free your wise true Self to manage your “inner family” and your life effectively. Consider using informed professional help to patiently…
* convert shame into stable self respect and self confidence;
* eliminate unwarranted guilts; .
* reduce excessive fears to normal; and to…
* reduce reality distortions and unwarranted distrusts.
Each of these options is best done when your true Self is guiding you.
Adapt these wound-reduction guidelines to fit your personality and situation. Refer to them any time you feel stuck, overwhelmed, discouraged, depressed, and/or confused.
If your agony is related to one or more significant losses, it may be normal grief. If so, it will subside if you and people around you permit yourself to grieve. If psychological wounds and a low-nurturance (“dysfunctional”) social environment hinder your grief, see the many practical options in Lessons 1 and 3 in this Web site. This also applies if you feel chronically ”depressed.”
Draft and use a Bill of Personal Rights like this example. No matter what your age, gender, race, religion, color, or status, your human dignity, worth, and rights are equal to every other person’s. Use your Bill to firmly assert your current needs and boundaries to other people without guilt or shame.
Honor your own boundaries and limits, and give other adults full responsibility for managing their own problems and lives. Let go of the illusion that you are responsible for their feelings and welfare. You may provide help, but ultimately they - like you - must take charge of their own wholistic health and situation.
Inventory and appreciate your personal intangible assets, and these ideas for improving your self-respect and self-love. Discuss these with people who know and care for you. Don’t listen to your well-intentioned Inner Critic, Cynic, and Perfectionist subselves as you do this
If you feel you have no one to talk to who will listen with compassion and respect, try calling one or more suicide hot lines. Churches, mental-health agencies, hospitals, police, phone directories, and the Web can refer you to them. Usually, they can refer you to other accessible resources.
Review these inspirations often, and use any you find meaningful. Collect your own inspirations as you go. Use parts work (Lesson 1) to retrain any well-intentioned Cynic or Pessamistic subselves who try to discount or ignore your affirmations.
Review the difference between religion and personal spirituality, and consider developing the latter. Options - read “Conversations with God,”: by Neale Walsch, and view the brief inspiring non-religious video called “The Dash.”
More alternatives to suicide…
If you’re a dependent teen or a disabled person and you feel chronically neglected, abused, or abandoned, you have a right to ask for help. Ask your doctor, clergy person, school counselor or coach, the nearest mental health agency, a hospital social-work department, or police for referrals to service providers. Scan your local phone directory for “Social Services.”
Search the Web for “suicide prevention resources.” There’s a LOT of knowledgeable help available!
Learn how to distinguish surface problems from underlying primary needs. Then identify your current unmet primary needs and prioritize them. Then use the Serenity Prayer to identify problems that you can affect, and brainstorm effective solutions one at a time. This works best with your true Self guiding you (option 1 above).
When you’re minimally distracted, try this safe interesting exercise: interview your Future Self and ask her or his advice on how to manage your problems.
If an addiction is part of your despair, read this (after finishing this) and consider attending a local or online 12-step group to see what that feels like. There are many useful free addiction-management resources on the Web, like Hazelden.org.
If you have adult kids and/or work with a counselor, therapist, and/or other supporters, show them this article and ask their help in tailoring and taking steps like these.
(Add your own options)
CRISES AND SUICIDE
Girls & Boys Town National Hotline
International Suicide Hotlines
National Hopeline Network
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
(800) 273-TALK (8255)
National Youth Crisis Hotline
(800) 442-HOPE (4673)
National Domestic Violence Hotline
National US Child Abuse Hotline
Eating Disorders Awareness and Prevention
Planned Parenthood Hotline
(800) 230-PLAN (230-7526)
RAPE AND SEXUAL ASSAULT
Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (RAINN)
National Domestic Violence/Child Abuse/ Sexual Abuse
Abuse Victim Hotline
National Runaway Switchboard
National Hotline for Missing & Exploited Children
Child Find of America
National Institute on Drug Abuse Hotline
National Help Line for Substance Abuse
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